As life in general, there are many phases. Everyone will eventually go through it. Either sooner or later. Maybe in sequences or maybe not. It is without you knowing it. The moment you realized it is over.
Some of these phases gives you sweet and warmth loving memories. You will smile just thinking about it. Never been before we will think about it. There more we think, the more we wanted to go back to that period of time in life. Just to cherish it one more time.
Some will leave a deep scar. So deep that you feels the agony, the pain and the bitterness whenever you think about it. Usually we can see it from the death, the mourning, the demise and so on. Letting it go is part of the process to go through in these stages. It is not so easy. It is not just we can let it go by talking about it. All I can say is only time heals. The length of the period needed is up to individual. It might takes days, or month and to some even years. Worse case is those can never let it go. They held it back deep inside their heart. Till the Ripper came knocking at their door.
Memories aren’t easy to forgotten. Be it sweet nor bad. It is just how we view it. Human have weak minds. We always try to logic ourselves out from the issues. Just my recent case, that I never thought about the outcome of my action. Indeed when it happens, it turns out to be a bad memory but on the other side of the table, it seems to be a sweet memory. After all, if I were to look into it as a process, it was good while it last. Sweet or not, I decided about it.
And some people say “that’s life”
Goes were those phases that are so mundane that we passed by unknowingly, unnoticeable and perhaps inappreciatively. Then when that phase is gone, we will realized that it was not well treasured. But what bygone be bygone; that that phase has ended hence there is no turning back. Can we opt to just regrets? I fairly doubt so. Yes, those phases are so mundane that we at times take it for granted. There is no point to cry over split milk. Instead I would rather to choose to find something from those phases to remember. Be it bitter sweet but as long as it is something I had before. Learn to appreciate all those. Make it as a blessing in disguise.
Come to the time we look back at those phases and start to wondering. Pondering about life. Then the ultimate question arise. “WHY?” Can we learn something out of it? Or we might not? Most of the time it is because we are looking at the wrong direction. It is there but we just keep looking far above that we often forgotten those below it. You always aims for the sky and stars but what about those beautiful doves flying around. Those colorful flowers? The crystal clear river and sea. The lushly green trees. So when it happen, make sure you know where to look at.
Being a human is a trial in life. We ought to seek for something. But not perfection. Only fools, mediocre fools will lust for perfection and continuously seeking it. The only perfection I learned from was there is top 10 perfection. All these perfection are the typical perfection but the last and the final one is the defective perfection. When we are able to embrace one’s weakness and defects, it becomes perfect. For we know that there’s no one is perfect.
So when we are down or happy, let just remember that it is just a part of the life phases we need to go through. Yes, if we are need to go through it why not make it a happier walk and journey instead?
When the phases of life is seems forever for you, it is because you still haven’t let it go. Reminds me of the story about the two monks and a beautiful woman.
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